Caring for a loved one can happen in all kinds of ways. It might happen when someone in your family has an accident or falls ill. Or it could be a case of helping your elderly parents more as they reach their final years. How you go about caring for the person close to you is not always straightforward or easy to work out. But there are some basic principles and tips that will help you get started, so read on if you want to learn more about them right now.
Educate Yourself First Before you do anything else or go any further, you need to educate yourself. When you know what you’re doing, you will be able to care for the loved one much better. If they are dealing with a specific health problem, try to learn more about that problem so that you can address their needs in the correct way. You can talk to their doctor about this with them too if you want to.
Resist the Urge to do Too Much Doing too much is something that can happen without you even realising that you’re doing it. There is always that urge to go the extra mile. But even if it seems like you’re just being helpful, it can often come across in the wrong way. No one wants to feel like they’re a burden to you, so focus on doing the important things and not going further than you really need to.
Try to Help Them be Independent if That’s Possible Helping your loved one to be more independent is often the best thing that you can do. Of course, whether this is possible will depend on the situation you find yourselves in. But if you can do, you should certainly try to make sure that you’re pushing them towards independence so that they can regain confidence and get back to normal faster.
When the Time is Right, Get Extra Care There are certain circumstances in which you can’t necessarily go it alone and do all the care tasks that need to be completed. If you are finding that the strain is too much, get the help that you need. There are carers out there that you can call upon, so you shouldn’t feel like you have to do it by yourself. Things spectrum healthcare cancer palliative care can also help in specific cases and when expert care is required.
Don’t Forget to Think About Your Own Wellbeing Finally, you shouldn’t forget about how important it is for you to look after yourself. If you’re so focused on caring for the other person in your life, you can easily forget about what you should be doing for you. If you do ignore these things, you will only become less helpful and useful as a carer.
Caring for another person can be very difficult, and if you don’t really know what you’re doing, the beginning can be even more tricky. The tips outlined here should help you get to grips with it. And you will certainly learn things along the way that will help you to cope with the specifics of your situation too.
From the title you are probably wondering what is this about. Well when I first heard about it, I was thinking the same thing. Monday, I was on Facebook scrolling on my phone seeing what was happening, or if I missed any birthdays. And I paused at this huge discussion about a recent article published from the New York Post titled, “Museum Slammed After Hiring White Curator.”
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“The Brooklyn Museum appointed last month Kristen Windmuller-Luna, as the Sills Family Consulting Curator, African Art. She has a Ph.D. in African art history from Princeton University, lectures in Columbia University’s department of art history and archaeology, and once worked as an educator for the Metropolitan Museum of Art, where she was responsible for adult and college gallery tours in the African galleries.” Dr. Windmuller-Lana is highly qualified for the position and came highly regarded.
The Museum’s Press Release details what she will be doing in her position.
“Windmuller-Luna will assess and rethink the Brooklyn Museum’s extensive holdings of African art, which is comprised of more than 6,000 objects, and organize an innovative, freshly conceived temporary installation showcasing the breadth and depth of the collection. Working with the curatorial team, she will focus on creating a visual dialogue between the African art collection and other significant works within the Museum’s holdings. She will also help develop dynamic opportunities for educational programming.”
The article said that the black community was outraged because the museum hired a white woman to the position of curator of its African art collection. Specifically, the activist group, Decolonize This Place wrote an open letter to the Brooklyn Museum of of its “tone-deaf decision” to hire Dr. Windmuller-Luna. “The hue and cry over this hire has brought to light a major disconnect between the governance of the museum and the communities of Brooklyn whom the institution is obliged to serve.”
On Facebook, the debate was ranging from disappointment to support. Some questions being asked: How can a white woman be a Curator of African Art? Was there no qualified black person for the position? To the opposite side of the spectrum: What’s wrong with a white person in this job if he/she is qualified to do the job? Why should being white instantly disqualify this position? Why are curatorial positions not more diverse? What can be done to change this?
This tweet really put a heavy shadow on the Brooklyn Museum’s decision.
BETTER HEADLINE: “Brooklyn Museum Welcomes Two New Cultural Colonizers for African Art and Photography”
After the uproar, the Brooklyn Museum defended its decision on choosing Dr. Windemuller-Luna for the position of African Curator, as quoted from the New York Times.
“Dr. Pasternak, Director of the Brooklyn Museum continues to stand by the hiring of Dr. Windmuller-Luna. She said, “We are thrilled to welcome Drew and Kristen to our fantastic curatorial team during this period of great momentum as we expand exhibitions, public programs, and educational reach,” said Anne Pasternak, Shelby White and Leon Levy Director.
We have to also look at the fact that not only African-Americans and African people study African art. There is not much diversity in this field. A 2015 Mellon Report states that 84% of Art museum curatorial positions are held by non-Hispanic whites.
Opening my Eyes You may be wondering why this topic is so important to me that I am writing about it on my blog. Well, I myself am a museum professional and have had curatorial experience in the past. I first learned about museum career opportunities from my college advisor. She knew that I was interested in textiles and fashion and that I didn’t want to pursue retail, with my emphasis being Fashion Merchandising. She told me about the museum field and set up a meeting for me to meet with the textile curator at the local history museum. I ended up completing two internships and working a summer job with the museum. I gained a wealth of knowledge from those internships that I never thought I was able to get because I didn’t know it was available to me. The hands-on experience inspired me to learn more about what the museum field had to offer.
Today, I have a full-time position in a museum and work in the administrative side.
I believe that Parents and Teachers bringing children of all ethnicities to museums is an important way for them to have the freedom to learn and ask questions. Children can become interested in a subject he/she may not have considered before. Also, museum professionals play a part by engaging the students in conversations; whether it be programs or events, and showing them what a museum professional does from day to day. This can be an idea for a career or a college internship in the future.
How do you feel about the Brooklyn Museum hiring Dr. Windmuller-Luna as the Curator of African Art? Do you support them or think they should of went a different direction?
Today, we remember one of the darkest days in American History.
April 4, 1968
Outside Room 306, where Martin Luther King was assassinated on April 4, 1968.
Martin Luther King, Jr. King had traveled to Memphis in support of the striking black sanitation workers who were protesting low wages and poor working conditions. King, staying at the Lorraine Motel, was planning a peaceful protest march with the workers. Tragically, an assassin’s bullet struck down King while he was standing on the balcony of the Motel on the evening of April 4th. At 6:01pm, a single bullet was fired from a rooming house across the street, killing the most influential civil rights leader of the 20th century.
The viewpoint of the Lorraine Motel from the rooming house, from where King’s assassin was positioned.
The Lorraine Motel became synonymous with the civil rights movement. The National Civil Rights Museum opened in 1991 on the site, incorporating King’s room and the rest of the Motel into the design of the Museum. My wife and I visited the Museum in 2012 to learn more about King and the civil rights movement. Read more about our visit to the museum, by clicking here!
Fifty years later, we remember King and his work to end racial discrimination and to bring equality to people of this country and around the world. I often think about how the nation would have been different had King been able to continue his work.
Has King’s dream of racial equality been achieved? What are we doing to ensure that the dream is kept alive? These are very relevant questions today because I often hear the same sun that is shining today was shining then. Well, that may be; but there’s still so much work to be done. King spoke of love and peace to make this a better world. In the news, we see more hate than we do peace.
What can we do?
It starts with love. We have to love ourselves and then love one another. It may sound cliche; but love is what makes the world go round. We have to be involved in our community and be involved in our schools and churches. I often hear people saying, “Is this 2018 or 1960?” Diversity is wonderful and describes what King believed and said in his speeches.
We read about the I Have A Dream speech, but I wanted to include the Jail No Bail Movement Instagram Post from the National Civil Rights Museum. He stood up for what’s right and this such a strong message.
The National Civil Rights Museum will be honoring King’s legacy on Wednesday, April 4th. Whether you are in Memphis or not you can participate in the #MLK50BellToll. “Places of worship, colleges, and institutions world wide will ring bells 39 times for each year King lived at 6:01pm, the time he expired.”
What is on your mind as we remember King’s legacy? What more needs to be done to make his dream is a reality? How far have we come? How far do we have to go? Leave a comment and let us have a conversation that can used to bring everyone together.
I know we have a lot of readers who are going through Lent right now.
What is Lent?
According to Dictionary.com, it is “the period preceding Easter that in the Christian Church is devoted to fasting, abstinence, and penitence in commemoration of Christ’s fasting in the wilderness. In the Western Church it runs from Ash Wednesday to Holy Saturday and so includes forty weekdays.”
Many people will give up sweets, soda, or even entire meals. While others will give up watching television or looking at their social media accounts. Whatever they give up, it is a way to remember the sacrifice that Jesus Christ made as He prepared for His death on the cross. It is also meant for Christians to draw closer to God and strengthen their faith in Him. If you’re looking for faith-related Easter movies, check out Pure Flix. This year, my hubby and I have decided to give up meat on Mondays. It is a small way for us to focus on our relationships with God and remember all that Jesus Christ has done for us.
While giving up meat is meant to be a spiritual sacrifice, there are also natural health benefits as well; including reducing your risk for heart disease, it lowers your risk for cancer, helps maintain a healthy body weight and living a longer life. In addition, going without meat can reduce your grocery costs and lower your healthcare costs as well (Information gathered from the Meatless Monday website).
It may seem hard to give up meat, but it can be done. With some thoughtful meal planner, it will become much easier as you go forward with it. If you develop a meal plan in advance, you will become aware of how much meat you have been eating; and you can look for alternative choices that don’t include meat. We wanted to share with you one our favorite recipes that we can say doesn’t make us feel like we are missing out on meat. A portobello mushroom sandwich is a tasty choice for anyone who likes mushrooms. By picking portabellas, they almost taste like meat because they are very hearty and have some substance to them. Here is our recipe.
Portabella Mushroom Sandwich
Portabella and Pepper Sandwich with Swiss cheese
Ingredients
— Portabella mushrooms
— 1 tbs. of olive oil
— Sliced onions, red and green bell peppers
— Sliced Swiss Cheese
— Garlic salt, seasoning salt, black pepper; or your favorite seasoning
— Multigrain bread or sourdough bun (optional)
Preparation
— Add olive oil into pan and turn on burner to medium heat.
— Add the desired amount of sliced portabella mushrooms
— Add the onions,red and green bell peppers
— When veggies and mushrooms are sautéed to your liking, top with swiss cheese
— Turn off burner and allow the cheese to melt
— Serve on a slice of your favorite bread or without
— Can be served with french fries and steamed veggies
— Total prep time is about five minutes
** The amount of mushroom, onions and peppers that you use will be depend on how big of sandwich you want.
** We use frozen mushrooms, onions and peppers. If you use fresh, start with sautéing the onions and peppers and then add in the mushrooms.
This is a simple recipe that makes for a quick and tasty meal. It is a perfect choice for Lent or for anyone who is looking for a healthier meal choice.
Are you giving up anything for Lent? Let us know in the comments section below what it is and why you are giving it up.
My wife and I have begun a journey to find out about us. We completed a DNA test through 23 and Me to find out about our genetic composition. After a long wait, we finally received the test results back and we are ready to share them. For more information about why we took the test, click here!
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From the results that we received, there were a few surprises, a few inaccuracies in our family’s oral histories and few unanswered questions. Let’s get to the results.
First of all, my overall results were
Jay’s overall DNA results!
Not a big surprise there. It is inline with what I was thinking it would be. However, when the European data was broken down into more specific regions of the continent, I was hit with our first surprise.
According to the results, I am only 64.6% French/German. Forever, my family has claimed to be 100% German, with no other ethnicities in the mix. But according to this, I am also 10.5% Scandinavian, 8.4% British/Irish; and 1.8% Eastern European. But what does this mean?? According to 23 and Me, it means that most likely I had a parent, grandparent or great-grandparent who was 100% French/German and lived between the time period of 1880 and 1940. That part I knew. In the genealogical research that I had done previously, I found that my great-great grandparents were born in Germany. Further, 23 and Me stated that I most likely had a 2nd, 3rd or 4th great-grandparent from Britain/Ireland and Scandinavia, in the time period of 1760 to 1850. And a 3rd, 4th, 5th or 6th great-grandparent who was born in Eastern Europe, which could be the Ukraine, Russia, Poland and Hungary. I had not completed the genealogical search prior to 1840, so it is possible that with further research I will be able uncover who these non-German family members would have been.
Please note that the way that the test is set up, 23 and Me places French and German DNA into the same category because that area of Europe is same geographical location. 23 and Me is advancing its scientific testing, so in the coming months there will be more specific geographic locations in my test results. When those results are released, we will let you know.
And now for my wife. We could not wait to receive her results because we had not completed her genealogical research, so we did not know what to expect. Her overall results stated the following.
JT’s overall results
With 73.8% West African, it means most likely a parent, grandparent or great-grandparent was born in West Africa between 1880 and 1940. This would make sense and there is no doubt about that information. Now for the surprises that we found. My wife was told that one of her great-grandparents on her mother’s side was of European descent. Based on the results of 22% European and specifically 7.2% British/Irish, there is good possibility she had a grandparent, great-grandparent or 2nd great-grandparent born in Britain/Ireland between 1850 and 1910. That would verify the family’s claim; but it is now time to start that research to see if we can find that person. The family also stated that she had a great-grandmother who was a Native American. However, according to 23 and Me, it is a likely the Native American ancestor was a 3rd, 4th or 5th great-grandparent born between 1700 and 1820; which would have been much earlier than the family had suggested. The test results further suggest that there is also a 3rd, 4th or 5th great-grandparent from Scandinavia who was born between 1700 and 1820. And a 4th, 5th, 6th or 7th great grand-parent who came from Southeast Asia, Iberia, Central/South Africa, France/Germany, and Oceania. My wife was surprised to learned that she had a such a diverse DNA background. This was all new information that she had not heard from her family. We With the enhanced results that are coming, it will be good to get a more specific location to these broad areas and to learn more about where her family lived at.
23 and Me provides you with so much more information that just these statistics. We are going through all the information now and processing what it all means. We will share more about the specifics as we understand them more fully. Also, we share our own personal thoughts about what these means to us. Stay tuned!
PAUL, APOSTLE OF CHRIST is coming to a theater near you on Friday, March 23rd. Just in time for the Easter Season. The movie examines the life of Paul, portrayed by James Faulkner, who in his latter years holds on to what he believes despite being tortured from all sides. And how Luke, a physician and Paul’s friend, played by Jim Caviezel, wants to recount in his writings how a person can truly be changed and then convey that message to the early church. This is a dangerous time for the new followers of Christ. Paul wonders if the word is getting out and if it is still important what he has to say.
Take a look a the film trailer below:
As Christians, we are noted for being quick to judge and condemning if a person is not on high of a pedestal as we think they should be. We have to realize that no one is beyond God’s mercy. “For we all have sinned and fall short of the Glory of God.” Romans 3:23 Paul, early in his life, hated Christians. Paul became a dramatically changed man, who is a key figure in fighting for Christianity and ended up writing a majority of the New Testament. Before we cast the first stone, we have to look at ourselves in the mirror. “Why do you see the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye?” Luke 6:41 (ESV)
Paul, portrayed by James Faulkner
This is such an important film to see in these days and times. Even while in prison, Paul sang God’s praises and some of his most loving writings came to be during this time.
Behind the Story
I am looking forward to seeing this movie with my husband. It is on our must-see list and I believe that it should be on yours as well. And you and a loved one might be able to see the movie for free. Bubbling With Elegance And Grace is collaborating with LEV3L Digital to give one person two free tickets to see the movie.
To enter the giveaway, you only need to do two simple tasks.
1) Leave a comment below about the movie
2) Share this article on your favorite social media outlet to get the word out about the film.
The giveaway begins now and will run until midnight (Central Time) on Monday, March 19th. the winner will be announcement on Tuesday, March 20th.
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