Getting ready for church this morning and I realized my hair is still wet from my twist out. What is a girl to do? I washed my hair last night, detangled, conditioned and had six twists on each side of my head. Ready to be styled in the morning. Well, I had let my hair air-dry last night; but my hair is quite thick. This morning my hair was not dripping wet; but it was damp.
Again I say, What am I to do?
Thoughts in my head of wearing a cap, but it is way too warm for that today. Maybe I could wear it up and no one would never know that I didn’t get the soft lustrous curls that I wanted.
What did I do?
I untwisted my hair added some Carol’s Daughter Hair Milk and styled it to the best of my ability. As you can see in the photo below, this is naturally me.
JTwisdom’s natural curls.
I am not fond of hair shrinkage; but I said to myself, “This is who I am, so people can take it or leave it.” A few years back, I would of never had worn my hair in this style. It was always straightened either with a pressing comb or by a relaxer. Almost four years ago, I decided to go relaxer free. I had to learn how to style my hair and find out through trail and error what products work best for my texture.
JTwisdom’s natural curls
Here I am, hair shrinkage and all. My hubby was constantly saying that he thought it was cute; but all I could think about was how short it looked.
But you know what, I went to church and got received several compliments.
My hubby said, “Is it better hearing it also from someone else?”
I said, “No.” But his comment made me think that I have to be fine with myself.
God’s word says that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalm 139:14)
God made me and He gave me curly hair and I have to love me some me. If I do not love myself; how can I show love to anyone else.
- JTwisdom
I find that the times when I don’t think I look my best are the days that I get the most compliments. Here I am talking about the shrinkage in my hair and a lady today said to me that she would have to pay to get hair like mine, meaning she would have to buy a curly wig. Go figure?
But the tidbit of advice to remember: Compliments are great; but if there are no compliments, you have to feel that self love inside that you know that you are beautiful.
Outfit in Review
Cardigan Macys
Silk Blouse J Crew
Tights Macys
Wedges Vince Camuto
Necklace – Nolan Miller
Bangle – Bronzo Italia
Gem silver cuff – gift
Fragrance – Fabulous by Isaac Mizrahi
This post is linked with NotDeadYetStyle
Visible Monday
Wise words today, my curly haired friend! I think you look fantastic. I often get compliments when I think my crazy curls look too messy, or fuzzy or whatever. We have to love our hairs : > Thanks for linking up!
Thank you Patti! You are right we have to love our hairs.
Your hubby is so sweet! I wish I have long wavy hair with natural dark brown color but unfortunately I don’t and I learn how to love my dark flat no wave at all hair. After all it is my natural hair. As long as it is healthy it is fine with me. I think you look nice and your hubby knows you best and take it from him 🙂
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MRS JACK OF ALL TRADES
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Hi Mrs. C!
Nice to meet you. Thank you for your sweet words. You are right my hubby is a sweetie and I am learning to listen to him.
I love your hair, but I do understand, I am natural too. It is a process.
Thank you Toni. I agree my hair journey has been a process but it’s worth it.
Beautifully written, I’m in the process of growing out my relaxer and it’s no easy transition. This was a perfectly timed post, thank you 🙂
Thank you, I appreciate that. Hope you are doing well.
I think your hair looks very pretty. Hair has such an effect on our self esteem…a bad hair day can wreck my day for sure. Your hair is lovely.
Thank you Lisa. I guess when we want our hair to look a certain way and it doesn’t turn out like we expected we feel that way sometimes.
Hi JT,
I like to say, “if you seek the acceptance of everyone else, you’ll never have your own.” You are beautiful the way God made you, including the way your hair grows out of your head. By the way, I am also a naturalista!
Joyfully,
Natalie (aka Hope Joy)
livingmyjoy.com
Amen, I totally agree with you.
You got frizz since it didn’t dry all the way but hey that’s our hair right? sometimes it doesn’t do what we want but it’s still all good. The shrinkage is something else. I know how you feel. My hair looks really short when I do wash ‘n go’s. I get the most elongation with braid outs
Yeah I know, I am learning to except the frizz. People always ask, did you cut your hair? No I say it’s my natural curls. I have been bunning on the third day of having twist outs and that has given me length.
You know what’s funny? Pulling my hair back causes my hair to be trained straight – like heat training. If I wear my hair pulled back for a long time, I wind up getting straight pieces when I try to wear my hair curly